Subheadline: You can sit thinking about what ifs forever or take action and live in the moment
Written By: Braiden Belnap
Summary: I don’t think that I am the only one that has struggled with dwelling on what ifs. There have been so many times in my life where I let them hold me back. When I was starting my podcast I had negative emotions and thoughts running through my mind and body telling me what ifs. The what ifs were “What if no one listens, what if no one gets anything out of the podcast, what if I look stupid, what if I don’t get my message accoss to my audience the right way” Those are just a few I could go on for a while. When I had those thoughts pop up of what ifs I had to nip it. I made the choice to consciously stop those thoughts. I changed those negative what ifs into positive ones. I told myself “what if I succeed, what if others learn from my mistakes, what if I can help people, what if people listen and are changed” I could have sat and thought about the negatives but I chose to turn them into positive what ifs. In today’s blog my goal is to help teach you to turn your negative what ifs into positive ones. I have a few tools that will help you be able to do that.
Let’s take it to the core. A lot of the time what ifs are related to what other people think, not what we think. They’re based on other people’s opinions a lot of the time. What can we do to change the fear of other people’s opinions? We can make a conscious decision to not let them affect us. The truth of the matter is that everyone has an opinion and thinks differently. It is good to listen to constructive feedback but not listen to negative opinions. If you are worried about taking that leap in your career to start a business or want to go back to college to change career paths but are scared of the what ifs from other people or from yourself don’t let that hold you back from achieving your goals. The what ifs are just thoughts and not truth. You can flip the negative and always turn it into a positive. The negative what ifs about going back to school of “what if I fail, what if I don’t have enough time, what if I go and I can’t find people to relate with because I’m older” can be changed to “what if I do amazing in school, what if I create a schedule and stick to it so I have time for everything, what If I find people that may be younger than me but that I can still relate with.” By turning those negative what ifs into positive ones you can create a new story in your head and achieve your goals more effectively.
Changing your what ifs from negative to positive also helps you stay in the moment. Staying present in times of stress will help reduce negative emotions. When you sit and think about the future you will start to feel anxious and worried about that “what if this, what if that” When you sit and think about the past you can think “what if I would have done this, what if I would have done that” Neither thinking of the future or past in a negative way is going to help you. Staying present will help the most but if you are going to think about the past or present, think about it in a positive “what if” way.
You can use what ifs to your benefit and they can make your life better if you need help or advice on how to do that. My social media is linked below. You can shoot me a dm with your question and I am happy to answer it for you. I hope you were able to learn something from this blog that you can apply to your life.
Social Media -
Listen to the podcast-