Transitionary Periods of Life
Transitionary periods can transform you or diminish you.
Written By: Braiden Belnap
Summary: Transitional periods in life, we can’t run away from them. They can be uncomfortable but there are ways to make them easier and not so intimidating. Transitionary periods can also be good and full of joy. In this blog I touch on the topic of transitional periods in life and how to get through those crazy times. I have had my fair share of them and these are the tools that have helped me get through them.
During times of transition in life it is important to give yourself time. Giving yourself time means that you give yourself time to feel all emotions that come up. I’m talking about all the good emotions and bad emotions. Feeling emotions and working through them effectively will make it so you don’t get stuck. If you shove your negative emotions down during hard times in life you’re not working through them and I promise they will come back up. You’re probably thinking to yourself “How do I recognize my emotions and work through them?” These are some tools that have helped me work through my own emotions. The first thing I like to do is write them out. Writing down your emotions when they feel overwhelming puts your brain into a logical way of thinking. When you’re in a logical way of thinking you are able to look at problems more clearly and really work through your emotions and see where they’re coming from. I am going to do a mock walkthrough of what that looks like. Let’s say our friend Jane decided to move to a new state. She felt really good about moving there and has an apartment lease signed and a new job lined up. She moves there and at first she loves it. Then reality starts to kick in and she starts to doubt it being a good choice to move. She’s away from family, she doesn’t have a lot of friends and her job is a lot more work than she was expecting it to be. She gets home from a hard day at work feeling very overwhelmed and second guessing her choice of moving there. She starts to push away her emotions of sadness but remembers that when she’s done that in the past it has only made things worse. She takes a few deep breaths, sits down and starts writing. She writes about her bad day at work and how stressful it was. She also writes down all the negative thoughts and emotions she’s feeling. She wrote down being overwhelmed, feeling lonely, and feeling sad. The solution she came up with for being overwhelmed is to create a schedule for herself. She has been coming home from work and watching tv instead of doing the things that she enjoys. Her solution to help her with feeling lonely is to make plans with the friends she's been able to make. Her feeling sad ended up coming from her feeling like she made a bad decision by moving. She reassured herself that moving was the right decision. After going through the motions of writing her emotions down it made her feel a lot better. It doesn’t totally take the emotions away but it changed her perspective so she could enjoy this transitionary period a little bit more. Change happens in life can and will be hard but it is all about perspective and making the best out of the situation. It’s okay to have bad feelings come up. It’s healthy to have them come up but the most important thing that will help you grow is being able to work through those effectively.
You have the power to live your life however you want whether that’s in a positive way or a negative way. Change is growth and means that new doors are opening for you. It is your choice on if you are going to walk through that door or not. I used to be a very different person in my early teenage years and I had to make the decision to change or I probably would be dead by now. If you aren’t satisfied with where you are now you can change that. I challenge you to change that and embrace the change.
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