On My Podcast this week me and my guest Skylar Bytendorp talked about confidence. I believe confidence is one of those things that takes time to build. I haven't always been confident and I can almost guarantee that there have been times in your life where you haven't felt the most confident. So if you are struggling or want to learn more about Confidence let's dive in. Confidence to me means that you have an understanding of who you are, what you want in life, and aren't afraid to speak your mind.
Let's Start with understanding who you are. To understand who you are you must first be aware of who you want to be and who you don't want to be. The best way to become aware is to ask yourself different questions. I like to ask myself : What are my core values, How can I build my core values, What are things that are important tho me in life (example: friends, family, pets, vacations. Things like that.) , What am I struggling with right now, What do I need to do to change the things I'm struggling with. I highly recommend getting a notebook or piece of paper to write down all your answers. These are a few example questions that you can ask yourself. If you have more questions that pop up while doing this practice ask yourself those if you feel they are going to serve you.
Next You need to figure out what you want in life. This part is important because you are setting the stage of your identity, vision for life, mindset and figuring out what you need to do to accomplish the life that you have been to scared to achieve. So let's start with your Identity. I mentioned asking yourself questions in the previous paragraph now it is time to take those answers and put them into motion. By putting them into motion you are changing your identity, building confidence and will start seeing a difference in the way you view yourself. Once you have your identity you must create a vision. Write down your goals, and create a vision board so you achieve your vision and goals. Next is changing your mindset. If you are struggling with thoughts of "I am not good enough" for example to be able to accomplish what you want you need to change the tune of the narration of what you are telling yourself. So when you have negative thoughts pop up I want you to stop them dead in their tracks, either say out loud or in your head "That isn't true" then replace it with 2 positive things that you love about yourself. As you start to do that then you will see a difference in the way you think on a day to day basis.
Finally is being confident in yourself. Don't be scared to be who you want to be. We are all different and not supposed to be the same. You have a unique vibe that you bring to this earth so go and run with it. My wife has struggled with friendship and has felt like people didn't like her. It wasn't until she started being confident in herself and seeing her true value that she realized that those people that she was trying to be friends with weren't her tribe of people. When you doubt yourself remember you are a badass and you got this!
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