Summary: Me and my wife have been together since we were 16. We both believe in different faiths. I was always raised in a “spiritual” home but we weren’t religious. My wife however was raised in the LDS religion. So we both have very different backgrounds. I feel like this is a very important topic to touch on. I know there are other couples out there that have a mixed faith relationship so I wanted to share my experience of things that have helped me and my wife succeed. The ones I want to talk about today are awareness, identity, and vision.
The first is awareness. Awareness is key in any relationship even in just your relationship with yourself. Me and my wife had to become aware of each other and our needs when it came to religion. When we are aware of the other’s needs then we have a stronger foundation to support each other. For example, If my wife’s need is to go to church and that is what helps her then I can encourage her to go or talk to her about what she learned that day so she feels that support from me. This goes vice versa as well. My needs are different from hers. However before we were able to come aware of each other’s needs we both needed to know what our needs were in all areas of life. So we individually sat down to learn about ourselves first and come up with what we needed from ourselves then what we needed from each other. I challenge you whether you’re in a relationship or not, in a same faith relationship, or don’t believe in anything; I want you to figure out and become aware of yourself and what you need from you, then what you need from others.
After you have become aware you need to figure out your identity if you haven’t already. For my wife religion has always been a part of her identity. Then for me it has not been a part of mine. Recently I have been looking into different christian churches so I am actively looking to change that part of my identity. Alternatively people who grew up in a religion then stopped believing in it more times than not have to find an identity without that religion anymore. Both scenarios can be difficult and hard but know that what you’re doing is best for you.
The next is creating a vision. It is important to have a vision especially in a romantic relationship because you essentially are planning a life with that person. So having a vision or a plan on how you want to live your life is key in having a successful life. There are many areas in your life that you need to have a vision for. Career, Finances, Religion, self, and relationships. Those are just a few to name off the top of my head. Start with that list and add, but take some time right now if you can to create a vision of what you want your life to look like in all areas.
Once you achieve all of those you have a strong foundation in yourself which creates a strong foundation in your relationship or relationships with those around you.
I hope you have learned something in this blog. If you want help or have questions about how to implement the tools I wrote about today, reach out. I would love to give you more advice. My social media is linked below. You can shoot me a dm with your question and I am happy to answer it for you. I hope you were able to learn something from this blog that you can apply to your life.
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