Control Your Thoughts, Control Your Results
Written By: Braiden Belnap
Summary: There have been times when I let my thoughts go on autopilot. I didn’t decide what I let go through my mind and I believed some untrue thoughts. It wasn’t until I made a conscious decision to notice my thoughts and change them that I felt like my life was changing. When you control your thoughts you control your emotions which in turn control your behavior. I wanted to share the tools that I used to change my thoughts so I could live a better life. In this blog I go through the key steps to changing your thoughts. The first step to change is becoming aware. Once you are aware you can then Change your language, and finally you can impact others.
The first step to controlling your thoughts is having awareness. It took me a lot of time to become aware of my thoughts. I thought that I didn’t have control and they were just chillin in my mind. I knew that I didn’t like a lot of the thoughts that went through my head. They were mostly negative thoughts about myself. I felt insecure and I wasn’t enough. It wasn’t until one day I became aware and realized that I could change my thoughts. It isn’t something that happens in a day; it takes time and a lot of self control. I began to slowly change those negative thoughts to positive ones. When there was a negative thought that popped in my head I consciously chose to not believe it and replace it with 5 positives. I have used this technique for myself and have taught many others. If you do this you will see a change happen and you will have a mindset shift.
The next step that is important is to change your language. How you talk to yourself and others matters. If you are always complaining or talking badly about yourself and others it lowers your vibration. I want to touch on talking badly about others first then I’ll dive into bad self talk. When you talk badly about others there is a sense of guilt and worry. Imagine what would happen if that person found out what you were saying? It would hurt your relationship with them and you would be sad and have regret. Gossip is a relationship killer. It is one thing to ask people for advice on how to handle a situation but talking bad about someone isn’t nice and won’t get you anywhere in life. I want you to also think about the negative things you say to yourself. The things you say to yourself would you say to someone else? I’m gonna go on a limb and say probably not. For example if you wouldn’t say “you’re ugly” to one of your friends why say it to yourself? The answer is you shouldn’t! When you want to say something negative switch it. Just like your thoughts you can change your language too. When you change your language about yourself and others you will have more confidence in yourself and your relationships with others will be strengthened. We have a tradition in my family called “10 positives” . What we do is when we say something negative about ourselves or anyone in our family we also have to say 10 positive things. This really makes us think before we speak to ourselves and each other. This is something I want you to try either on your own or invite friends and family to do it too. It is something that has helped me and my family.
Finally, if you use all the things I shared in this blog today you will begin to impact those around you. When you impact those around you, you are able to help them elevate their life so they can live with more purpose and enjoy life. With that being said, there will be people who see your growth and will try to still hold you back from your potential. I have had people in my life tell me that I wasn’t good enough and wouldn’t succeed in the things that I wanted to accomplish. Some of the people who said those things have seen me accomplish a lot and have realized that the things that I am doing and am teaching really work. So as you take these tools into your life and implement them everyday you will begin to shift, see the impact you have made on yourself and impact those around you.
I hope you have learned something in this blog. If you want help or have questions about how to implement the tools I wrote about today, reach out. I would love to give you more advice. My social media is linked below. You can shoot me a dm with your question and I am happy to answer it for you. I hope you were able to learn something from this blog that you can apply to your life.
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